Protect the Postal Service

Today let’s protect our vote and our postal service.

Sign a petition to remove Louis DeJoy from Board of Governors, USPS Petition to remove Louis DeJoy

Write a good old fashioned letter, a thank you note or send a care package to someone via the post office. You’ll get to make someone happy and give a little financial support to USPS. Buy stamps, USPS stamps. If you’re sending holiday cards this year, go ahead and stock up on stamps.

Like the post once you’ve done one of the above, comment once you’ve done both!

Easy and fun.
Thank you!

 

Goodbye Dolphin, Hello Sienna Van

Bye, bye Dolphin, hello Toyota Sienna. I kept loving the Dolphin and wishing it to be what I wanted it to be. But alas, a cylinder went and it needs an entire new engine. That’s when I faced reality! It’s been sold to a Toyota mechanic. In it’s place, I have a Toyota Sienna van.
The Sienna will be perfect for weekend camping trips. I’ll remove back seats, set up a bed, pack camping stove, all camping supplies (bear spray) and off we’ll go. The ability to be in solitude in nature is my saving grace.
Just so happens, I have a friend looking at Siennas for camping purposes. She has sent me links to some great companies that do conversions. ie:  Contravans
I probably won’t get all fancy, start small, put in a roof vent for sure. It’s always fun to look at websites and Youtube to see what can be done.

The Sienna was perfect for bringing a load of my stuff from Montana to Oregon. Will have to go back for one more load.

Happy Camper
Thanks for reading!

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

I’m midway through Tara Schuster’s book, Buy Yourself the Fucking Lilies. It’s a memoir/self help book. After drunk dialing her therapist in the middle of the night without remembering, Tara sets off on a journey to change her ways. Aside from myself being past the dating world of my youth, it’s relatable, sometimes humorous and helpful.
She does start doing all the right things and it works: eating right, exercising, meditating, journaling and keeping a gratitude list.
From the advice of a friend, she reads The Artist’s Way and as suggested in the book, she begins writing morning pages. Three pages (about 20 minutes) of writing before you do anything else.
Tara recommends Tara Brach’s  meditations. She commits to 30 days of a gratitude journal. She suggest fake it til you make if you’re not feeling it!
May you glean something helpful from her suggestions.
Maybe buy yourself the lilies. I have dear friend who buys herself one white lily regularly just because it makes her happy! 😉

Thanks for reading.

Speak

One of my favorite things about driving a long distance is listening to audiobooks. Just this year, I discovered Laurie Halse Anderson. I read her memoir, Shout. I love the writing style, short poetic pieces. It’s empowering for anyone who is a rape survivor. She kept her own rape quiet for 23 years. I’ve been pretty quiet about mine and just starting to see the implications of being quiet about it for most of my life. My family shamed me for speaking about it. Covering the truth is instinctual in the culture I grew up in.
The audiobook, Speak, is her first novel tailored for young adults and is used in classrooms. Wonder what my life would have been like if I had that kind of literature to read in English class. The afterward of Speak is read by Jason Reynolds. I wish every father and mother would listen to his afterward. I wish every father especially would speak to their children about consent.

Currently, halfway through, Buy Yourself the Fucking Lilies, by Tara Schuster. Yea, the title is what initially attracted me to it. Already gleaning some tips, from her experience in beating her anxiety and addiction.

Women’s March

I’ve copied and pasted an email for you today. It’s an opportunity to volunteer. This opportunity seems doable and effective. There is a link to sign up if you are willing. Remove my name and info and enter yours when you open the link.

There’s less than 100 days until the election and we’re launching our massive Women2Women voter contact plan soon. We need your help to contact women voters to make sure they turn out in record numbers on November 3rd.

If every 1 in 10 people reading this spent just one hour phone banking, we could make 3,600,000 calls with our dialer system and send even more text messages. Can you be one of those people?

If yes, please sign the 100 days volunteer pledge now to commit at least one hour to contacting women voters to make sure they’re registered and ready to vote on November 3rd.

Women can be the ones to get Trump out of office: it is our duty, and it can be done. We are the majority of voters and if we turnout in force, we can decide the fate of this election. 

Our assignment is clear: Defeat Trump nationally using the tools available to us during this pandemic – while building up and repairing the bonds between us to tackle our most urgent threats from coronavirus, police violence, recession, rising fascism, and climate change. 

Here’s what what happens next after you sign the pledge:

  1. You’ll be invited to join the weekly Turnout Tuesdays phone and text bank. There will be a 30 minute training session each week followed by one hour of calling or texting. After you do the training once, you can just join for the 60 minutes of voter contact. 
  2. If you’re ready to go even further, we’re inviting you to start a Women2Women circle with at least five other people where you live to organize locally and work together to defeat Trump. Let us know if you’re interested on the pledge form and we’ll invite you to our info session on August 6th at 7pm ET

We will pull through by pulling together to build a feminist force so strong that Trumpism is defeated forever. Will you sign the 100 days pledge to help turnout women voters in record numbers?

Together we can win, 

WM Organizing Team

Donate

Women’s March is a 501c(4) organization. Your generous support helps us prepare for fights we see coming and those we don’t. Donations are not tax deductible. If you prefer to make a tax-deductible gift, we encourage you to support the Women’s March Network. Gifts to the Network support our organizing, communications, advocacy and public education efforts.

Burn some things

Oh how I wish I didn’t care that my oldest sister just came west to visit my other sister (we live in the same town) and didn’t contact me.
I wish I didn’t care that she also went to see my daughter and grandchildren.
I wish I didn’t care that there have been trips planned that excluded me.
I wish I didn’t care that we don’t talk or text ever, not on birthdays or holidays, never.
If I didn’t care, maybe the hurt would go away.

I wish I didn’t care that they think my ex-husband is the greatest thing since slice bread.  That they think I’m terrible for breaking up our marriage and put my daughter through a divorce. I stayed with him much longer than I should have, because I didn’t want to break up our family. They don’t know what went on behind closed doors. They don’t want to hear ugly stories, try to understand, it’s easier to just pretend I don’t exist.

Tonight I listened to Moth Radio, rooted in the past. Inspired by Craig Mangnum
and his story of breaking away from the Morman church, I thinks it’s time to burn some things.

Thanks for reading. It’s not always flowers and butterflies.

Mother daughter relationships

Mothers are either glorified or blamed, the job description is almost impossible to live up to, daughters are often angry at their mother and don’t know their mother’s history before they came into the world. It’s hard for daughters to come to a place of compassion, without realizing their mother had a whole complicated life before they came into the world.
What happens without healthy dialog? Stories and diagnosis are often created.
My daughter and family certainly have a story and have diagnosed me. And there is no dialog. I’ve tried, but it seems their story and diagnosis of me is serving them somehow.
We weren’t taught how to have hard conversations, how to listen in order to understand.
This is some of what I gleaned from listening to this conversation with Harriet Lerner and Sheleana Aiyana

Navigating mother/daughter relationships with Harriet Lerner

I remain open to miracles, healthy dialog with a willingness to own up to my part and with compassionate listening from all parties involved.

Thanks Wendy for sharing this youtube.
And thanks as always to all who read this.

 

Writing in lists

Getting ready to meet virtually with my writing group. We are writing lists. Each week has a series of lists to complete. I’ve been so surprised by this process. Our group has really gotten close because we have learned so much about each other from our lists. Some lists have served as prompts for essay writing. As we say, “anyone can make a list”.

A couple of lists for this week:

Things you’d tell your 21 year old self:
1. Don’t get married, at least not for many years. Make sure he is a good man.
2. Don’t drink.
3. Study, follow your interest, your passions.
4. Learn the craft of writing.
5. Recognize what you and Tayloe (high school, college sweetheart) had was remarkable. Pregnancy and abortion were too painful for our young hearts.
6. Don’t try so hard to fit into the family, find your own way.

Things that scare you less as you get older:
1. Dying
2. Speaking up
3. Driving alone to Baja, having a flat tire in the middle of nowhere.
4. Problems
5. Mice, just a little less scared of them.
6. Anger
7. Emotions
8. What others think of me.

You get the idea.

Thanks for reading.

Petitions and sweet listen

Links to some petitions that are close to my heart. Click and sign if they are close for you too.

Divest police ACLU Petition

Expand Voting Excess Petition

Move-on vote by mail petition

Change.org vote by mail petition

Stop building of wall on native American land

And a nice listening treat: Tank and The Bangas, What the World Needs Now

Good trouble

We sure did lose a good one last night, Congressman John Lewis. I had just listened to an interview about the new documentary on him, John Lewis, NPR
Once in Jackson, MS, he was arrested for using a white restroom. In his mug shot you can see a little smile on his face, as he knew he was going to continue to make some good trouble. Remembering his arrest
John Lewis, documentary trailer

This news came out as I was scrolling through Twitter. Author, Susan Orlean, The Orchid Thief, starting tweeting after a few drinks. Susan Orlean on Twitter It became quite humorous, tweeting she needed candy, her cat, etc. Her followers were entertained and yes a little concerned. I found myself giggling and followers were commenting that her thread was bringing some much needed lightness to the world.  Tells you something about our world if we are finding relief in following someone’s drunken tweets. Then the news of John Lewis’s death, then time for bed.

It’s a new day. Let’s all go get into some good and necessary trouble!
“Do not get lost in a sea of despair. Be hopeful, be optimistic. Our struggle is not the struggle of a day, a week, a month, or a year, it is the struggle of a lifetime. Never, ever be afraid to make some noise and get in good trouble, necessary trouble.”-John Lewis