Worth Your Time

It has warmed up to 16 degrees from 4 degrees today here in Missoula, MT. But the sun is shining and it’s actually quite beautiful after a day and night of steady snowfall. It will warm up to the 50’s by the end of the week. I’ll head to Eugene starting this Thursday.

A couple of talented friend’s work appeared this week. I hope you watch and listen. I found them both entertaining and enlightening. It’s worth your time.

Chris Sand: Montana’s rapping cowboy, “20 for 2020”

Also, part-time Missoulian, Quentin Robinson, stars in the first episode of Move on Netflix.

Quentin Robinson starring in Move

https://www.sozoartists.com/lovehealsallwounds

Word of the day, writing rants

Word of the day from dictionary.com: Ambivert – one whose personality type is intermediate between extrovert and introvert. That resonates. I used to be much more of an extrovert but time and circumstances have made me much more of an introvert. Quarantine has been a gift to my introvert side.
My writing group that started during quarantine is about to begin it’s fourth session of six week sessions. Deb, who facilitates, started our group with the idea of writing in lists. She is compiling a book for her children, they will learn a lot about her and other ancestors in this format. For myself and some others the list have served as prompts. It is remarkable what comes from it. This group of eight women has been the biggest gift of quarantine. We share authentically and deeply. Two women have adult children with severe mental challenges that present dangerous behaviors at times, another is from India and was cast out of her family when she married an American man and had half-caste children, and another women just lost her son to suicide at the beginning of this year.
Sometimes when one of us complains then apologizes, “D” from India encourages our complaints. In her culture and others, it is encouraged as a way to get it out. I like that, and everything in moderation right? This week I suggested we write a list of rants. Inspired by Lola’s Get Down With Your Sweet Self improv class. Maybe you want to give it a try.
Rant on and thanks for reading.

Cancelled Amazon, watched Driving While Black

Awhile back, I won an Amazon gift card (remember Alicia). I joined Amazon and have watched shows on Amazon Prime. I ordered something this week, yes a cushy cushion for my seat to help with back pain. That’s the shopping theme lately, cushions, memory form, heating pads, even looking at suppression underwear. Anyway, I digress. I love my cushy cushion, especially while driving in the car. But when it arrived, it was in a huge box with unnecessary packing materials. That depresses me. It’s so wasteful. Last night, I heard a news story of how many accidents occur on the job at Amazon that are covered up, minimized, etc. They push their employees to make sure your item gets to you as fast as possible. (Why does everything have to be so fast?) Last night, I used the last of my gift card and cancelled my membership. I don’t need to help Jeff Bezos get any richer.
Also, last night, I watched a new PBS documentary, Driving While Black: Race, Space and Mobility. It is educational, eye opening and heart opening.
This morning woke up to this song and performance shared by my friend, Paty. Hope you watch it, I cried. Keep Going On Song
Love you all,
Thanks for reading.
PS not sure if I’ll continue with Fuck it Frances. WordPress renewal is coming up. It’s $118 per year. Feedback welcome.

Woke up, a poem

The family was gathered in the kitchen, cooking, laughing, dancing
then I woke up
Some of us moved away to make new lives for ourselves, we called each other to check in
then I woke up
I call my Mama every Sunday for a chat
then I woke up
My sisters, brother and our children, along with grandchildren are planning our next family vacation
then I woke up
We are listening to each other with empathy
then I woke up
I hear a little voice calling “mama”
then I woke up

I Voted!

I voted and it feels so good,
“Reunited, and it feels so good
Reunited ’cause we understood
There’s one perfect fit
And, sugar, this one is it
We both are so excited ’cause we’re reunited, hey, hey”…


So good I just had to sing for bit. You remember the tune by Peaches & Herb?! The lyrics could work for reuniting this country again. I think there is hope.
If you can vote early, do it. Drop your ballot in a polling box if you can. Mail in is a great option, but it will delay the results and since the 45th and DeJoy are sleeping together no telling what shenanigans they will drum up.

Need a good laugh, check out the talented Alec Baldwin and Jim Carrey in the latest episode of Saturday Night Live, First Debate. The entire episode is available on NBC, highly recommend.

Voting plan and back pain

We are all reeling from the “debate” Tuesday night. I choose to listen to it on NPR, as the less I can look at the 45th the better. But really, I couldn’t listen, the banter and arguing were disturbing, so I turned it off. The good news is, I am going to vote tomorrow. Here in Montana, one can go into an election office starting tomorrow and put their vote in. I have actually had some mail that was coming not show up so this is will feel the most effective way to get my vote in and counted. I’ll mask up, stay six feet apart and wash, wash, wash my hands. Hope everybody has your plan of action of getting your vote in as soon as possible.

Hip/back pain update: it’s been a month and still hurts. Yesterday, I could hardly get out of bed. I decided to go by the Bone and Joint Urgent Care. X-rays only revealed a little degeneration in my spine. The doc prescribed physical therapy and muscle relaxers. If no improvement in a few weeks, they will do an MRI. Looking forward to physical therapy starting Monday. Muscle relaxers didn’t do much last night. Got the heating pad, ice packs and stretching going on today. Truth: I’m tired and miss my grandchildren.

Vote and strengthen your core. Thanks for reading.

A Question Was Posed

A friend on social media posed a question: “Tell me how the past year has irreparably broken your spirit?” The responses were many, varied and poignant.
Here’s my response:
The injustice that has reared it’s ugly head this year has broken my heart, caused me to reflect, go into action and accept some of what is. In research I’ve discovered shameful acts of my Southern family, my grandfather declared a black man insane for trying to enter a white southern university and had him committed. My family of origin’s dysfunction has created a chasm that may be irreparable. Tribalism is creating a divide. We are forgetting we are all connected. It breaks my heart everyday, especially this past year.

I’d love to hear your response.

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” Ernest Hemingway

Love you all, Frances

PBS Frontline And Rogan’s List

Last night I watched Frontline on PBS about the two men we have running for President. It’s very telling. Our democracy is at stake here. It’s not about being Republican or Democrat, it’s about getting a reality show host, bully and sociopath out of office. Watch and educate yourselves: The Choice 2020 Trump vs. Biden
Yes, the two parties are important, but we have a personality problem right now.

Another good find, Rogan’s List. It has many links to who to contact on what issues, White House contacts, links to Postal Service and more: Rogan’s List

Thanks always for reading.

Thanks @lovenotfear. I did it, thanks to you.

Honor Truth Honor Ruth

“My dream is that we will get back to it. I think it will take strong people from both parties to say, let’s get together for the good of the country.” Ruth Bader Ginsberg
This is a beautiful piece that honors RBG and inspires us to continue her good fight.

ActBlue is reporting record-breaking donations to Dem candidates since the announcement of her death – something like $12.5 million in the first two hours. Let’s not stop now. We need to carry on the fight for her, for us, and future generations. Donate, volunteer, vote, take someone to get registered, help them vote.
Here are some suggestions:
Support Amy McGrath, get McConnell out of there. https://secure.actblue.com/donate/am-website?refcode=website-nav

Steve Bullock for Senate in Montana, defeat Republican Steve Daines. https://secure.actblue.com/donate/sb-homepage?refcode=scb_web_header-button

Mike Cooney for Montana governor https://www.cooneyformontana.com/

Kathleen Williams for Montana Senate https://kathleenformontana.com/

Mike Epsy, Democrat, for Senate in Mississippi, this is a quiet but important campaign. He’d be MS’s first Black senator since 1881. While winning over a backwards Republican. https://espyforsenate.com/

These are just a few ways to contribute. There are plenty more. Consider donating to any of the swing state elections and of course Joe Biden. https://joebiden.com/

“Fight for the things that you care about, but do it in a way that will lead others to join you.” RBG


Please leave comments with some of your suggestions on how contribute and more.
I can’t figure out how to make links without the https, etc on this new format. I’ll get help. For now they are clickable just not as attractive. @lovenotfear, help?!

Love y’all, keep up the good fight and get into some good trouble

Driving through Idaho (a different kind of place)

My last stop in Idaho was at the Cenex in Salmon, ID. Guns and ammo stores with large signs lined the streets. Huge Trump flags flew outside homes and from backs of oversized pickup trucks.
I ran into the Cenex, which had a True Value hardware store in it, to use the restroom. I was one of the only mask wearers in there. As I waited for the restroom, I peeked in the camping section. A young male employee approached me, not wearing a mask. I backed away as he asked if I needed any help. “I thought you might be looking for your husband, since you are in the fishing and camping section,” he said. “No, no husband, I’m a camper,” I replied. “Oh you are one of the lucky ones, there aren’t many of you,” he smirked.
After a quick visit to the bathroom, I couldn’t walk fast enough out of there.
It is beautiful country, with a sense of fear in the air. As a liberal woman traveling alone, it wasn’t the safest I’ve ever felt. In fact, I felt 100% safer traveling through Baja, Mexico alone.
When my map app announced, welcome to Montana, my tension relaxed, I took a deep breath of relief.
Yesterday, I had an appointment with my favorite chiropractor here in Missoula, Dr. Van Eerden, at Hickory Street Chiropractic Clinic, http://www.hschiro.com/
He really is good, gentle and uses the activator. Our visit was mainly me on the table with him doing visceral manipulation. We talked of Idaho, shared stories that only confirmed my sense of fear driving through there. His son played soccer, thus they found themselves traveling there for games. Ivan’s gentle touch gave my hips some relief. By evening, I was feeling the pain again and exhausted. I have a doctor’s appointment next week to continue the search into what is causing this discomfort.
Meantime, Aranda Bowman LMT, https://www.massagebook.com/Springfield~Massage~Aranda?src=external (highly recommend her) who I saw in Oregon a week ago sent out this Youtube with some self myofascial bodywork. Check it out and take good care of yourself.

Thanks for reading and coming along on the journey.

Need some community tonight? Join in for live storytelling at Tell Us Something, https://www.tellussomething.org/ $10 per ticket. Support the arts, support storytelling.

Pink barn in Idaho with smoke filled skies